Like you, I have been through many changes and transitions in my life. While some of the changes that happen in our lives are chosen, others seem to be thrust upon us from out of nowhere. This post is about the changes that we choose.
I am thinking of the change and transitions that are a result of heart-shifts, when we begin to answer the call of our spirit, when we step up into a new role/next level of our work or when we become aware of tendencies and patterns in our lives that no longer serve us and we want to create new ways of being and living.
What I have noticed about myself in these scenarios is that even though I want to create or invite a change, I come up against myself, the self that is comfortable with the old ways because it knows what to expect. The "new" way is uncharted territory, or as one of my teachers calls it, the unbounded space.
I have adopted a new way of thinking about this uncharted territory as adventure, discovery and exploration. Like preparing for a trip to unknown lands it is scary, exciting and challenging! I don't know what to expect or what I will find along my journey, but I can educate myself and prepare to some degree.
I prepare for this uncharted territory by reminding myself that this is a place I have never been before, someone I have never been before. I am in the midst of becoming. After all, you wouldn't expect to travel to a new place and know exactly where to find everything you need immediately right?!
Another way to prepare is to learn from those who have been through the same uncharted territory. Be open to asking for help and learning from those who you respect, trust and admire that have made the journey you are embarking upon.
Creating change and intentionally choosing something different takes patience, practice, presence and commitment.
We can't change our minds with our minds alone. We weather transitions much more effectively when we get to know ourselves and figure out what we are up to, in order to create the space and capacity for new ways of living and working.
This means knowing how you react under the pressure of change, what you are feeling emotionally, understanding what your tendencies are, recognizing thought patterns, listening to your body, etc., in order to slow things down and choose different responses. Practice, presence and patience!
Making a commitment to your journey through change and transition means you are whole-heartedly in it for the longer run. It means not abandoning yourself and turning back. It means loving yourself through set-backs and getting back on the path when you wander off. It means honoring all of the experiences and knowledge that come with growth and change.
What changes and growth are you currently experiencing? What path are you excited to be on today? Wherever you are on the path today I wish you much joy, discovery and a spirit of exploration!
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