I believe in the positive impact of a good coaching partnership.
Coaching is a powerful space in which two people come together to say Yes to the expression of our highest potential. A space in which we say Yes to possibilities and also to challenges; knowing that what arises in meaningful conversation will move us through those challenges.
The coaching space created by two committed partners accepts and encourages our truest and most whole self to show up, to speak up, to acknowledge and affirm what is cared about and yearned for.
A space to envision and succeed, to move towards and with the energy behind the hopes, dreams and goals.
The coaching space invites you to see and use your wisdom and strengths to plan for and move towards the expression of your highest heart and potential.
Share with me in the comments some of your coaching experiences; how has coaching helped you to grow?
How important is goal setting in your life? Goals are great tools when used well. Goals can be misused though. Goals are misused when they are set from a place of should/have to or when we are striving for something that we think will make us feel more worthy and successful...once we get there.
Self Acceptance and Goals
Have you ever felt confused by the thought that if you just accept yourself the way you are that you would then be "letting yourself off too easy" and therefore wouldn't be able to achieve what you want? That you have to kick your own ass and punish yourself all the way to success?
I don't believe in that way of doing things. I think that we should start with developing self acceptance and from that place...set our goals.
We need self acceptance to set goals.
Self acceptance is the foundation that a solid and enjoyable life is built on.
Self acceptance allows us to have high standards of excellence without the heaviness of perfectionism.
If you are going to be a success, then you will need goals. To FEEL like a success you will need to have love and acceptance of your self the way you are. You will have to learn to treat your self as a success. This means not rejecting your self. This means that to be a real success, and feel like a success, that you will have to get rid of any self judgments.
Without self acceptance you can do great things and still be left feeling "unsuccessful". The self judgements rise above what we have achieved, often niggling at us with thoughts of not enough, it could have been better, I need more, etc;
But when we set goals from a foundation of self acceptance we can create incredible results that give us a sense of achievement, happiness and success. The outcome of starting with self acceptance is often a mindset that becomes truly positive and feels lighter, a mindset that sees more possibilities, and can more readily accept whatever results are achieved AND keep moving in the direction of the goal.
It's possible to accept and love yourself and still be committed to growth and your goals. Accepting yourself as you are today doesn't mean you will lose the motivation to change or improve, in fact I believe it will make you even more aware and effective. What are your thoughts on success, self acceptance and goals?
I've spoken with many people who say they just don't have enough time in a day to accomplish what they would like to get done. If this sounds familiar you are not alone. So many of us cram our days and minds with a list of shoulds, hope to's, and obligations to others that it is no wonder we feel like we don't have near enough time.
If we all have the same number of hours in a day, why do some people seem to be able to get things done, and others end their days feeling run off their feet and disappointed that they were not able to check off all the boxes on their to-do list?
While there can be many reasons why a person might feel like there are not enough hours in day, there are some factors that are probably at play: not honoring ourselves or our time, a lack of good boundaries and unrealistic expectations of ourselves.
When was the last time you took a look at your desires, obligations and commitments? Most of us take on and expect so much of ourselves. We say yes before really considering how adding one more thing to our list of obligations will effect us. We don't stop to consider that maybe we have set up unrealistic expectations of ourselves. We don't consider that we have limited energy and that we need to refill in order to keep going and be effective.
If you are serious about changing how you think about time, some sleuthing is required. If you feel like you are constantly run off your feet you can choose to investigate your patterns. What do you see yourself doing that does not honor yourself and your time? Do you have good healthy boundaries around your time or do you often let other people's needs infringe upon your plans and goals?
These questions will help you to start thinking about time and how you experience it:
What about you? Has this post inspired you or raised a question? Leave a comment!